Separate Your “Who” from Your “Do”
I sometimes wonder at all the things I do (or don’t do) that I never intended or wanted to do. Like, why did I totally forget to go to a bridal shower that was right on my calendar in black & white for weeks…there I was munching on my lunch when I suddenly realized I was supposed to be in Staten Island. WHAAAAT?! Or binge watching Downton Abbey until 3 am even though I knew I needed to be rested the next day. Procrastination is also one of my most unwanted of “do’s” --- I always swear that NEXT time I will not leave everything until the last minute.
One way I have evolved (thank goodness!) is that I have learned to no longer tie my identity, my “who” to my “do.” This saves a lot of wear and tear on my soul. Just because I am not happy with what I’ve done, it no longer makes me feel badly about myself --- who I am, My Self. Whether I mess up or make bad choices, it does not shake my identity as a loving, intelligent, beautiful, beloved of God, woman/wife/mother/daughter/friend. Wow! So glad I finally got this --- it frees up all that energy that I used to expend in ruminating or kicking my Self for one of my “do’s.”